Just say NO!

How do I get myself sucked into this crap?? Traci says it’s because I’m a nice person. I just need to learn how to say NO! Here’s what happened…

Lisa called yesterday. First off, I just got a new cell phone and I haven’t programmed in all the numbers yet. So I didn’t even know who it was. I hate that “Hey, It’s me” crap when I answer the phone. Don’t assume I know who you are unless I acknowledgement you! “Ummm… Hi” is not an acknowledgement! Anyway, the next thing she said was “So what are you doing tomorrow.” “Ummm… nothing.” “Good. You can go out with me to celebrate my birthday!” Damn!! It’s Lisa!! What have I just gotten myself into? I already said I wasn’t doing anything. Think! Can I get out of this? THINK!!!! Brain shutting down… I hear myself say “ok…”

Now don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I have anything against Lisa. Well, not really… It’s just that she has issues and it’s really hard to be her friend. She cuts her self off from everyone then gets pissed because she says we don’t invite her to things when she is ready to be around us. Well, if you call and invite someone’s voice mail to stuff all the time and never even get a return phone call, wouldn’t you STOP CALLING?? Plus, the last two times I saw her I either gave (she said loan, but I knew I was never going to see it again) her money or paid for her because she was broke. No offense, but I am not here to support you (financially that is). I’m sorry you can’t hold down a steady job. I’m sorry your man isn’t paying your bills or supporting his child, but you knew he was married with 8 kids before you two hooked up. I’m sorry your mom moved away and took with her your source of free meals and babysitting, but I am not here to take her place! And for the last 2 years, you have either canceled last minute or just not shown up on my birthday and other close friends’ birthdays. Do ya’ll see why it’s hard to be her friend??? Do you see why I really am not feeling a night out with her and whatever new Love of her Life she is dating at the moment? At least while she has a man, she won’t ask me for money.

I’m sure I’ll have a story to tell on Monday…