Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Tico

Ok, me again. I'm really not trying to tease ya'll but I just have been soooo busy and my internet access was acting up. I have it working now, but I just don't have time to talk. I'm all dolled up ready to go to dinner in Miami. It's going to be a friend, her hubby and this guy, Tico. We work together and yes, there is a story about Tico. Alright, the friend and Tico and I all work together. We decided to go to this particular resturant as a form of research for a new resturant she wants to open. We decided to bring her hubby because she NEVER get to spend time with him. Now it's looking more like a double date! The place is supposed to be great, but I know nothing about it. I'll tell you more tomorrow.

UPDATE : Ok, so I was interupted in my posting by my friend coming to pick me up. We drove to Miami Beach and had dinner at the fabulous place where the presentations of the food was sooo cool. It's really expensive and hard to get into, but the place was great! I was in so much shock when I saw a $40 cup of coffee on the menu.

Now for the real story. Let me tell ya'll a bit about Tico. Like I said before we work together. Well, for the last few weeks he has been persuing me. Of course I've been resistant for several reasons. First off, we work together. He was a Marine and I have always HATED marines. He is not my physical type. I like tall guys and he is short. He has a kid and I don't like baby mama drama. Anyway, there are many reasons why this should not work. Well, I guess he wore me down. LOL!! No, seriously, he is really sweet when we are together and he's cute. He reminds me a lot of the guys I grew up with. They are Thugs, but have a soft side. Anyway, a week ago, He needed a key to the resutrant because he was opening by himself in the morning. So, I had to meet him to give it to him. It was a friday night and I was working, so I had to meet him afterwards, around 2 or 3am. We hung out for a while at his place, but nothing happened. I know, ya'll are thinking "It was 2am and nothing happened??" Yes, I was a good girl. Well, the same thing happened a few nights later because the owner didn't make new keys yet. Well, needless to say that by the second night we had crossed the just friends line. I was alright with this. He has his positives and I was starting to like him. Of course, THEN he tells me he is still married to his baby's mama. As you can imagine, I was livid! What the hell? How could you not tell me you were married? He started to say that he thought he told me but that he may have mentioned the word divorce. I said to him "So, do you want to be the guy that Omitted the fact that he is married or do you want to the be one who lied to me about being divorced?!?" He was like "Ummm, I think we'll go with omitted." I was really upset and what made it worse was his "Don't worry about it" attitude. To him it's no big deal, but to me it is! I grew up with both of my parents. They have been married for over 35 years and have never been married to anyone else or had any kids by anyone else. Marriage means a lot to me and is a serious committment. For him to not tell me that he is still married is a very big deal to me. He keeps saying "So what. I got married." I keep trying to tell him I dont' have an issue with him getting married 6 years ago, but I do with him STILL BEING MARRIED. Granted, he says they are seperated and she lives in NY. He claims he never sees her and doesn't talk to her unless it's about their kid, but how do I know that. My question is why not just get a divorce??? "She was supposed to do it but..." "I was going to but..." "I started to but..." I was so upset about it because if he omitted this, what else was he keeping from me? We've talked and he thinks I'm over reacting. I'm trying to decide right now if I can deal with the fact that he is a married man.

Ok, so that is what is going on in my life right now. I have yet to recap my Savannah trip or tell you about my work drama. It's coming soon!

3 Comments:

At 7:01 AM, October 05, 2006, Blogger Aziza said...

Ah, I figured something was going on with you. We hadn't seen much of SP lately. I went through a similar situation, and I ended up telling him that we couldn't be together at all. I just don't like the idea of folks knowingly and voluntarily "ommitting" information. Getting information from him was like pulling teeth and I decided that I couldn't live like that. I could never tell when he was telling the truth. I ain't going to lie; that stuff hurt. That happened eons ago, and I still stand by my decision.

 
At 9:23 AM, October 05, 2006, Blogger chele said...

YOU ARE NOT OVEREACTING!

Why do these guys wait until we start to like them before they drop these bombs? I'll tell you why: because they are counting on the fact that our gushy feelings will cloud our good judgment.

Keep it moving, girl. Keep it moving.

 
At 12:39 AM, October 11, 2006, Blogger Shawn said...

Yea no...you should steer clear of him. He lied plain and simple. He omitted the truth to cover up the lie of his assumed single status.

 

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