I just have to let her go...
I can’t do it anymore. I just have to say goodbye. I can’t handle Lisa any more. So, from my previous post, you have already heard some of her/our issues. Well, as much as I didn’t want to go out on Friday, I resigned myself to do just that. I am a big birthday person! I send cards to my friends from Jr high and presents to my college friends’ kids on birthdays. If nothing else, I try to always acknowledge everyone’s birthdays. So, I figure I should go for Lisa’s 30th. After all, it is her 30th birthday! Plus, I kind of figured it may be the last time I see her before moving anyway. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t set a moving date or anything like that, but it’s not often that I see her anyway. So, Friday night… here’s what happened.
5:00 – Called Lisa to find out what time we were going out. She was on the phone.
5:45 – Lisa called back and told me 11. Ohhhh! 11? I know I’m getting old cuz I was thinking by 11, I’d be tired! The plan was for her to pick me up and we go to this place about 20 minutes south of me. She lives about 20 minutes north of me.
6:00 – Lisa calls again to say another friend is on her way to her house and why don’t I just come up there to hang out. By the way, I’m still at work. So, ISSUE 1 – Now she wants me to drive up to her which probably means she is gonna ask me to drive all night. I just told her I had to work and I’d call her after.
9:00 – I get home from work and call to tell her I was home and getting ready. She didn’t answer and her phone did that little beeping thing which lets you know the person is on the phone. ISSUE 2 – She just let me go to voicemail!!
11:00 – SP is all dressed up with her hair just done and just about to put on some makeup. Umm, yeah, I don’t do make up except when going out. I thought for a minute, “hmmm, Lisa hasn’t called. Let me not put on my makeup.”
11:30 – No Lisa. I call again, no answer.
11:50 – I call Lisa again. No answer. I left a message. “Well, It’s almost not your birthday anymore and I haven’t heard from you yet. I guess I’m going to bed now. I hope you had a good B-day.”
ISSUE 3 – This B*tch never called or answered her phone after I psyched myself up to go and got all ready!!
And the next day, ISSUE 4 – I called to find out what happened and she never answered or called back!!
So, Lovely, huh? Like I said, that along with all the other attitude, grief, money borrowing, guilt trips, and whatnot have caused me to just let it all go. I haven’t actually told her this, but then again, she still hasn’t called me, so I’m sure I won’t get to!
6 Comments:
Girl, your friend is a trip. You were trying to be nice by showing up for her birthday. Just be relieved that someone like that didn't call you back. You won't miss sometimey friends like that anyway.
I had a soror like that. She called me in the middle of the workday to ask me to see the now late Commerce Secretary, Ronald Brown, speak at a local church. So, I scrambled to get home (MD) from work (DC). I checked my mail, then drove fast to her place to catch the ride to the church. She already left. She didn't leave me a message or anything. Then later that night she had the nerve to call me without apologizing for jetting without me. Simply put, I don't miss folks like that. I only want to be friends with folks who are considerate enough to treat me like I treat them. Drama be gone. Hmph...
I know, I know, but I have to say it...are you sure she's alright and that nothing happened to her?
Lisa sounds more like a hassle rather than a true friend. It may just be time to let her go. GOOD RIDDANCE!! Trust me, you will feel much better once you do.
Sounds like she gave you the heeve-ho and hung out with the visiting friend. They look better together anyway. Now you can save a lot by switching to Geico. ~Laughs~ I know it hurts and I'm definitely not making light of that. I've been there in your shoes before. But I finally realized that I could no longer blame the other person when I was part blame. Why? Because I continued to ignore the "Spirit" and time again I got railroaded into going, doing and being the person I wasn't. So I wised up and got rid of the baggage - bad friends, the art of not knowing how to say "No!" and all other relational hinderances.
And I know what you mean about "getting old;" I now go see movies that are deemed "matinee" by this young Hip Hop generation and said movie times are the seven O' clock no later than eight show.
Signed,
sleepy in Orlando.
Okay I have to play catch here (again) with Lisa and all.
But other than that, hope you had a good hoilday!
Until,
Bk Babe
whoa - it's definitely time to let her go! but that's just a testament to you - that you were kind hearted enough to give her plenty of second chances. (just got caught up, on all your recent blogs.)
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